Love and be loved without hiding part of yourself, forcing or compromising.

Are you ready to face the root causes of your relationship challenges?

Are you prepared to do what it takes to experience authentic, natural and lasting relationships with your kids, significant other, friends or colleagues?

You have the tools to be natural in relationships, and I’ll help you find them. 

We won’t work on changing other people, although the may naturally shift as you change.

If you’re fixated on making others become who you want them to be, this isn’t for you. This is YOUR inner journey.

It’s about exploring yourself at the deepest level, discovering what you really want and why, and how to get there.

You won’t be able to change anyone in your life, but you can change how you engage with them and redefine the relationships in a ways that honor your true self and authentic needs. You won’t have to end any of your existing relationships if you don’t want to. Shift how you regard relationships and manage your own needs through them to receive the joy, satisfaction and meaning you need. As you transform you’ll find you become attractive to healthy people creating opportunities for new, more balanced relationships. You’ll form new relationships and approach your existing relationships differently in order to build a constellation of friendships that meets all your needs and allows you to meet the needs of others in a healthy way.

This journey will be difficult.

These are not tips, tricks or shortcuts.

You will face what scares you to death in our calls.

This is about lasting transformation, and that doesn’t come easy. 

My introductory package for new clients of $1,250 for 12 weekly 1 hour individual sessions delivered via Zoom. You will further invest in yourself by reading and contemplating between our sessions. You will want to clear a few hours after each session for sitting and integration. I’ll be with you every step of the way, but this will be difficult. Please don’t sign up if you aren’t 100% prepared to invest the time and effort. If you’re still interested, the next step is for us to get to know each other a little bit.

Click here to book a complimentary introductory call.

This 12-Week Intensive will focus where you are at, and how much progress we make depends on many factors. I can promise that you will move forward in the following areas, although how far forward remains to be seen. You may chose to go one Intensive, and give that work 6 months to integrate and process the adaptations, and then go another Intensive to build another layer.

You will learn to parse your inner voices and resolve that tension. You’ll see inner conflict in others and communicate with them helpfully from that perspective. Start seeing wounded parts in others and offer them care in a non threatening way. Learn how to ask others to meet your authentic needs and invite them to ask you to meet theirs.

You will discover how your formative years influence how you operate in relationships. Receive the care you needed when you were young and offer others the care they needed when they were young.

Befriend your nervous system and no longer be swept away by anger or anxiety or shut down by numbness and blanking out during conflict or tense situations. Learn to use your stable nervous system to help others who are struggling, and how to accept help from others when you need it. 

Discover that your whole body is a communication device, telling you how you feel and how others feel. Learn to listen with your body, and how “heard” others feel when you do. Connect with your whole being - mind, body and spirit - and discover this is what you’ve actually wanted the most all along. 

Gain Interdependence - learn to meet your needs and the needs of others in relationship without falling into a one-sided dynamic. 

Discover the irony that better boundaries bring people closer. Detect how much is too much and learn to enforce your boundaries gently but firmly. Develop a sense for where others boundaries lie, and when they aren’t working for you, how to negotiate boundaries from a place of love.

Find your tribe - As you grow, you’ll automatically attract healthy people interested in authentic interdependent relationships. Learn how to build more encounters with these people into your lifestyle. 

Based on your preference we can focus on romantic relationships, parent-child relationships, friendships or professional relationships. 

Only you can make this happen. I look forward to hearing from you. Click here to book a complimentary introductory call.

A few years ago I found the courage to embark on a terrifying inward journey. I faced the roots of my behaviors and beliefs. I learned how my past influenced my needs and how fears were keeping me from truly living. I discovered that I was always lovable and possessed everything I needed to nurture healthy relationships. I became skillful with the relationship tools I’d always had but never learned to use. My relationships and family transformed, and I no longer feel alone and defective.

I began talking about my journey with other men, and discovered I had a knack for helping them to find their own tools, and their relationships began to transform as well. I look forward to meeting you!